The Art of Dealing with Others
Being great at dealing with people is not an inborn talent or innate skill. A big part of effective communication and emotional intelligence is being able to feel someone else’s emotion–current state of mind and act accordingly.
Don’t ever try to impress people by revealing your secrets or flaunting your achievements, for its effect is often the opposite of what you expected. Try to stay low-key; stop telling people more than they need to know.
The best way to impress people is to let them keep their point, so always give others chance to speak and inculcate the habit of being a good listener rather than being a 24×7 Juke box. If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten the art of dealing with people and impressing them.
While you deal with people, respect their feelings. Even if what others are speaking or discussing mean anything to you or don’t relate to you, show interest and give undivided attention on the topic of interaction as it could mean everything to others.
Never speak negative and demoralize others in your talks; you should never deprive someone of hope; it might be all that they have.
Next, don’t underestimate the seductive power of an elaborate vocabulary. The more knowledgeable you are, the more expertise you have in different areas the better when it comes to keeping your point in front of others and make your mark.
People also judge you by appearances, the image you project through your actions, words, and style. Act like a king or queen to be treated like one. If you do not take control of this process, then people will see and define you the way they want to, often to your detriment. Always try to build a perception of a smarter and intelligent soul rather than someone who can be taken for granted when you present yourself in front of others.
Don’t ever say or discuss anything you don’t want to come back to you someday and humiliate you. Learn the art of evaluating people in your life; then promote, demote, or terminate the negative ones from your list. The smarter you are, the more selective you become and choose the right set of people and build a strong repo in front of others.
Interact with people that reflect who you want to be and how you want to feel, energies are contagious. Surround yourself with those on the same mission as you.
Try to always be in the company of smart people. A group of smart people helps to amplify not only your knowledge but also help you pave your path to success in life. If you ever find that you’re the smartest person in the room, you need to find another room.
If you need to disagree with someone’s point, it is best to do so politely and respectfully. Some people’s insecurity and ego fragility cannot tolerate the slightest offense.
Never offend someone, even if the other person seems weak. Never make this mistake of thinking that you elevate yourself by humiliating people.
Don’t argue with negative people, this is part of how they trap you. Silence is the best reply to a fool.
Don’t raise your voice, to improve your argument. If you’ve made your point, stop talking. Sometimes silence is the best way to make others realize that they were wrong.
I hope this smarter approach towards dealing with people will help you achieve your career goals and be successful in all your initiative and interactions with people.